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第二部分 对症下药,逐一对付
9.动怒
许多时候,我们一旦被人打扰或激怒,就立刻大发雷霆,怒气冲天。如果是性情比较暴躁的,就更容易光火了。很多日常琐事都会令我们发怒,比方孩子不听话,我们动不动就对他大声叱喝,还认为那是理所当然的。
其实,我们是错用了一些神所不接受的标准。祂的标准和我们的标准不一样,而只有祂的标准才是对的、将来神也要按着这些标准来审判我们。
主耶稣在登山宝训里吿诉我们:“ 凡向弟兄动怒的,难免受审判。” (太5 : 22 )即使我们只是骂弟兄为“蠢材” “傻瓜”,将来也要受极可怕的刑罚。很多人以为骂人没有什么大不了,但耶稣说恨人就等于杀人。
事实上,动怒的确能够杀人,不少成年人和儿童由于经常被人叱责辱骂,以致在心灵上留下了无法弥补的创伤、因此也可以说他们被某些事物扼杀了。
时常动怒的人,必要受神的审判。耶稣说:“凡骂弟兄的,若不悔改,将来难免地狱的火。” (参太 5:22)祂清清楚楚的吿诉我们,只有柔和谦卑的人才属于祂,那些经常动怒的人是在撒但的控制底下。因此,我们切切要摆脱动辄发脾气的罪,千万不可掉进撒但的圈套去。
撒但竭力想使我们相信,偶尔发一两次脾气幷不为过,耶稣不也斥责那些在圣殿作买卖的入,把他们赶出圣殿么? 当撒但这样引诱我们的时候,我们要立刻斥退撒但!
耶稣没有罪,祂是神的儿子,满有神的慈爱。只因祂看见圣殿被人污秽,祂爱之深,也痛之切,因此才会激于义愤而动怒。祂的怒气,纯粹是爱的义怒。
另一方面,我们也要认凊楚自己的本来面目原来是污秽不堪,犹如一个贼窝,各种恶念从其中逬发出来的(太15 : 19 )。倘若我们以为对人大声叱喝,可以帮助他纠正自己,那我们无疑是把毒药端给他喝,因为我们良好的动机已掺杂了仇恨和愤慨在里面。
其实,许多时侯,我们动怒只是为了想发泄一下心中的怨气,这些怨气显然是出于撒但的,非但不能造就人,还会令人越来越败坏。
要脱离撒但的控制,我们必须彻底除去动辄发怒的毛病。只要凭信心与罪恶争战,我们一定可以得胜,因为主已粉碎撒但的权势,衪必能帮助我们战胜。摩西曾经在愤怒中杀死一个埃及人,但神帮助他,使他变得 “极其谦和,胜过世上的众人。"( 民12 :3 ) 今天,神岂不也会照样帮助我们战胜怒气么?
我们当前的要务,就是来一个一百八十度的转变,我们要选择基督的道路,向我们的怒气挑战。“你们蒙召原是为此,因基督也为你们受过苦,给你们留下榜样,叫你们跟随祂的脚踪行。祂并没有犯罪,口里也没有诡诈 ; 祂被骂不还口,受害不说威吓的话,只将自己交托那按公义审判人的主。"( 彼前2 : 21一23 )
让我们学习基督的“柔和谦卑” (太11 : 29),以爱心战胜一切! 基督拯救了我们,让我们有神的样式,我们理当彰显出祂的爱,因为柔和谦卑的人,就像春日的和风,能以爱赢取人心,溶化最刚硬的铁石心肠。
温柔谦卑是引向天堂的道路,动辄发怒会导我们走向地狱。圣经说:“温柔的人有福了。”我们究竟要选择温柔还是发怒呢? 耶稣是“救我们的元帅” (来2 : 10 ),祂已走在我们前头,我们要跟随衪的脚踪而行。
这就是说,我们要在生活中实践祂的教导,遇到烦恼时,不立刻向人发泄,而首先安静祷告,紧记“不可含怒到日落”。若有人是我们所恨恶的,我们先要在神面前谦卑下来,甚至在那人面前谦卑下来。神必会祝福乐意遵行祂旨意的人,令他更柔和谦卑。
基督已为我们付上赎价,祂已粉碎了撒但和罪恶的权势,使我们不再受罪的拑制,得以“脱去祖宗所传流虚妄的行为。” (彼前1 :18 )在基督里,我们是新造的人,有基督柔和谦卑的形像,我们必须凭信心去接受。
PART TWO: Individual Sins
Anger
Usually we are not at all dismayed-especially if we are choleric by nature-if we should happen to flare up violently when we are irritated or annoyed. For instance, if we are irritated by our disobedient children, we almost think it is natural for us to shout at them. But then we are using false standards, standards that God does not accept. God's standard is different and it is the only one that is valid. We will be judged according to it. It is the standard that Jesus gives us. In the Sermon on the Mount He speaks about being angry with our brother. He tells us what will happen, if we insult our brother or even say to him, "You fool!" (Matt. 5: 22).
None of us would think that this is a serious sin. Yet Jesus pronounces a frightful judgment over such vehement behaviour. He includes angry people with murderers, and a terrible punishment will await them. And we know that anger can really kill in a figurative sense. Children, and even adults, who have been victims of a constant barrage of angry remarks often have deep scars in their souls; it is as though something there has been put to death.
God's judgment will come down in a dreadful way upon those who persist in being angry. Jesus said that those who hurl angry insults at their neighbours will find their eternal place in the fire of hell, if they do not repent of their anger (Matt. 5: 22). Jesus tells us clearly and unmistakably: Just as the meek belong to Him, the angry belong to Satan and his kingdom of darkness. Therefore, no matter what the cost, we must be freed from anger, from flaring up and being vehement.
We must not fall into Satan's traps. We know his tricks. He tries to convince us that we have to shout at people every once in a while just as Jesus did when He drove the money-changers out of the temple. But when he tries this trick, we can only say: "Get behind me, Satan, you blasphemer!" Jesus was not a sinner like us, but the Holy One of God, filled with the spirit of love, and He was only acting out of the agony of love when He saw the sacred temple being desecrated by sin. He was angry, because He wanted to save; His anger was a reaction of His love.
On the other hand, we really ought to know what our heart is like. It is a den of robbers. Evil thoughts come out of it (Matt. 15: 19). It is like a cup of poison. If we think we are helping others to get straight, by shouting at them angrily, we are handing them a poisonous drink. Our good intentions are mixed with bitterness and indignation.
Can there be anything good or loving behind our angry, vehement words when all this is resting in our hearts? What liars and hypocrites we are, if we pretend that we just want to help the other person get back on the right path by giving him a piece of our mind. In truth we usually just want to give vent to our annoyance and anger-and because this is Satan's poison, it cannot help others and free them. It will only make them more set in their evil ways.
Satan's poison of anger and flaring up has to be removed from our hearts and lives, if we want to be free from Satan's power. And whoever fights a battle of faith in hatred against this sin will be freed from it, for Jesus has come to destroy the works of the devil. Should He not also conquer this devilish anger in us? Did not God make Moses, who killed the Egyptian in great vehemence, more meek "than all men that were on the face of the earth" (Num. 12: 3)?
We have to make an "about-face", declare war on our anger and choose the way of Jesus. "To this you have been called . . . that you should follow in his steps . . . . When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten" (I Peter 2: 21-23). In our mind let us picture Jesus, who says, "I am gentle" (Matthew 11: 29)- Jesus, the Lamb of God, filled with gentleness, patience and meekness--a picture of love that overcomes all! And to this image He has redeemed us. We should reflect this love, which wins other people, which is the opposite of anger and vehemence. It is gentleness and mildness which has great power and thaws out hard hearts like a spring wind.
This way of meekness leads us to heaven. The meek are called blessed. The way of the angry leads to hell. We can choose. If we want to follow the way of the Lamb, Jesus, "the Captain of our salvation" (Heb. 2: 10 AV), will proceed us and we will tread in His footsteps. That means in practice: If we are upset and annoyed about something, we should not go to the other person immediately to give vent to our anger.
Wait and pray first. Perhaps instead of hitting him with a long tirade, we might just write down a few lines on paper. We must never let the sun go down upon our anger, but humble ourselves before God and if necessary also before the people against whom we were angry. God will bless such steps taken in obedience and will remould us into gentler people.
Should it not be possible for God to make us gentle and meek? Jesus has paid the ransom price and broken the power of Satan and sin so that we no longer have to serve this sin of anger. We have truly been redeemed from the futile ways inherited from our fathers (1 Pet. 1:18).
The disposition of our fathers-like vehemence and anger-which we have inherited, can no longer rule over us. This sin has been nailed to His cross and our inheritance is the new disposition, the image of God. In Christ we are a new creation, redeemed to the image of the Lamb, who was meek and humble-this we must claim in faith.