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第二部分 对症下药,逐一对付

2.骄傲

“神阻挡骄傲的人。” (彼前5 : 5 )


对自高自大的人,神不但不祝福他,更与他为敌,你说还有什么比这更糟吗? 或许,我们会埋怨神不听我们的祷吿;我们的灵性低落,祷告没有能力,这可能就是其中一个原因。


又或许不幸紧随着我们,无论我们怎样努力,总是头头碰壁,处处着黑。为什么会这样呢? 因为我们的骄傲令神不能赐福给我们,把我们拒诸门外


撒但千方百计不让我们觉察到这点,总是设法蒙蔽我们的眼睛,叫我们看不到自己隐藏的骄傲,好控制驾驭我们。


隐藏的骄傲是顶严重的罪,它令我们不能忍许多事情,例如我们不能忍别人备受尊崇,自己却被冷落一旁;不能忍别人卓尔不群,仪表出众,自己却相形见绌,其貌不扬


又或者我们当众受人侮辱或责备,或是要屈居人下,听命于人,不能满足自己的指挥欲的时候,我们都不能忍受


我们往往自怨自艾,觉得别人不赏识自己的才华,以我们的资历、学历或才干,是不该屈居这样的职位的,真是满腔委屈,又满心不平! 


或许我也会埋怨自己命运不好,没机会接受所需的教育或专业培训,以致不能担任要职; 又或许我们会埋怨自己的父母目不识丁,使我们出身卑微,一生寄人篱下……。一切都令我们闷闷不乐,郁郁寡欢


我们埋怨命运的安排,不面对事实,承认这些怨忿其实都是出于自己的骄傲。


我们不肯接受别人的批评,拒绝任何帮助,坚持要自己解决问题,以为受人帮助是一种屈辱,说穿了其实是我们隐藏的骄傲在作祟,令我们不肯低声下气的求助。


有时候,我们的谦虚也可能是一种骄傲 所谓“假谦虚即是真骄傲”,越是希望别人赞他虚怀若谷的人,内里就越是骄傲,时刻关心着别人对他的看法。可见骄傲的表现是层出不穷的,惟有靠圣灵的光照,我们才可以看见。


隐藏的骄傲是一个祸根,足以防碍我们灵命的长进,破坏我们一生的福乐许多其他的罪,像坚持己见、脾气暴戾......都是因为心藏骄傲而起。


时刻警醒,彻底察看自己有没有骄傲的迹象,也要找出导致我们骄傲的可能原因,例如在别人面前丢脸、窘迫,或受人忽略。


 下面的经文可以帮助我们对自傲有一个正确的态度:


“凡心里骄傲的,为耶和华所憎恶。"(箴16:5)


"骄傲在败坏以先,狂心在跌倒之前 " ( 箴6:18 )


“耶和华足足报应行事骄傲的人”。(诗31:23)


“人所尊贵的,是神看为可憎恶的。”(路16:15)


在最后一节经文里,主对那些狂妄自大的人所宣判的罪状多么可怕,他们是神所憎恶的,在末日的时候,可怕的刑罚会临到他们身上(赛2:12)。


骄傲是一种可怕的罪,骄傲的人是属于撒但的,他们都要落入地狱里。骄傲更是其他罪恶的温床,如果我们不战死骄傲,不谦卑自己的话,就会不断犯罪,永远也逃不出撒但的掌握。


神说:“使骄傲人的狂妄止息,制服强暴人的狂傲。”(赛13:11)无论要付上多大的代价,我们也要摆脱自己的骄傲。


神的话给我们明确的指示


首先 :“你们要自卑,服在神大能的手下 ( 彼前 5: 6 ) 


试把这句话应用在我们生活上,当我们得不到尊荣 高职 领导地位 或是一些我们的骄傲心所向往的事物,我们就要放下己意,服在神大能的手下,甘心、接受任何屈辱,对神说:“父啊,我愿意


 例如对我们的缺点、我们的学历程度才干或是家庭背景......都要甘心接受又或许我们被罪捆绑,身不由己,一次又一次的犯罪,或从儿女身上看见我们的缺点......


不论是什么,我们都要对神说:“父啊,感谢祢给我这些痛苦,让我在这些事情上学习谦卑,使我得以斩断我的骄傲”我们这样祈求,神必垂听,并答允我们的祷吿。


 其次,主劝勉我们:我们必须像祂那样谦卑


祂是神的儿子,是至高无上的主,所有天使都伏在的祂的脚前敬拜祂,但祂“……反倒虚己,取了奴仆的形像。”(腓2:7-8)主对我们这些卑微的罪人说 :“凡自卑的,必升为高 (太23:12)


让我们接受祂的挑战,甘愿谦卑,像主那样虚己,我们就能粉碎里面的骄傲。尽可能不接受任何荣誉或尊荣,也不要突出自己,或是追求尊贵的地位反之,我们要把尊荣归给别人,让别人得到所有的称许


当别人开始注意我们的时候,也要保持冷静,别沾沾自喜或得意忘形。最重要的,还是要向人坦白承认自己的过犯。只有真正的羞辱才会叫我们谦卑下来,凡与羞辱为"友"的,必得着能力,它们就像锤子那样,把我们的骄傲击得粉碎。


另一方面,不要忘记我们也要竭力打信心的仗,努力治死我们的骄傲


我们要遵行神的话,谦卑自己,天天把我们的罪带到主面前,求主的宝血洗净。我们要凭信心跟那"在位的、掌权的”作战,不要沮丧,也不要气馁,因为主是得胜的主,祂在十架上胜过魔鬼,救我们脱离罪恶。


我们必经历到神的应许:“我住在至高至圣的所在,也与心灵痛悔谦卑的人同居。"(赛57:15)


耶稣说:“我心里柔和谦卑。”(太11:29)祂本是荣耀的主,却甘愿谦卑,走上加略山上受苦牺牲。主又岂不会帮助跟随祂的人,让他们学习到祂的谦卑,带有祂的荣光? 


主已在十字架上把蛇(骄傲的化身)的头踩在脚下,祂已胜过罪恶,也胜过了骄傲的能力。


我们只要求告祂的圣名,祂必叫我们也战胜我们的骄傲。


You Will Never Be the Same
Dr. Basilea Schlink

PART TWO: Individual Sins 

Pride: Haughtiness


"God opposes the proud" (1 Pet. 5: 5). This verse shows God's sharp verdict against the proud, for there can scarcely be anything worse than having God not only withdraw His grace from us but even flatly oppose us. Perhaps we complain that we are so spiritually dead, that we have difficulties praying, that God does not answer our prayers. This may be the reason. Because of our pride God opposes us and refuses to answer. Or perhaps we seem to be pursued by misfortune. We cannot succeed in anything we undertake no matter how hard we try. Why? God cannot bless us, because our pride has closed the door to Him.


The enemy tries to make every effort to keep us from recognizing this. For every time we do not bring our sin into the light and repent of it, he gets us in his hands. So in many cases he has covered up our pride. This hidden pride is the most dangerous sin. For instance, we cannot stand it, when people pay little attention to us and do not honour us, but pay honour to someone else. We cannot stand it, when we are not worth anything to others, because we do not have many talents or shining qualities or a charming personality. We cannot stand it, if someone reproaches us and humiliates us in the eyes of others. We cannot stand it, if we do not have a position of leadership and cannot set the pace. We do not realize that all of this stems from our pride.


On the contrary, we often feel sorry for ourselves, because people do not give us what our talents, education and capabilities deserve, or because we have to do work that is "beneath us". We feel sorry for ourselves, because we have not received the education or training necessary to carry out our job. Or we cannot bear the fact that our parents are uneducated, that we ourselves have not reached a prominent position. All these things oppress us and make us unhappy. We blame the external conditions, and we deceive ourselves about our real motives. 


We cannot digest any criticism. We shut ourselves off from other people and may even think it is humility when we persist in this attitude, "I have to deal with this somehow myself". But in our hidden pride we are so mixed up that we cannot find the next step to ask for help and release. Our desire to have others think that we are especially humble and modest can also be hidden pride. We are too concerned about what others think of us. Pride can appear in many different forms. Only the Spirit of God can give us light about them.


Our hidden pride is like hidden poison, which threatens our spiritual life with death and will ruin everything in our lives. We have to make every effort to recognize our pride. By searching our consciences we have to let ourselves be shown the dangerous symptoms. We have to get to the bottom of this and ascertain which situation was difficult for us, because we were humiliated, embarrassed or overlooked.


Some Bible verses can help us get the proper attitude towards our pride:


"Every one who is arrogant is an abomination to the Lord.. ." (Prov. 16: 5).


"Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall" (Prov. 16: 18).


"The Lord abundantly requites him who acts haughtily" (Ps. 31: 24).


"What is exalted among men is an abomination in the sight of God" (Luke 16: 15).


It is a dreadful verdict that Jesus pronounces in the last verse over the proud and haughty. They are an abomination to God. That is why there will be dreadful judgment against the proud and lofty in the last days (Isa. 2: 12) and the Lord "Will put an end to the pride of the arrogant, and lay low the haughtiness of the ruthless" (Isa. 13: 11), when He comes again to judge mankind. The proud can await destruction. No matter how high the price, we have to experience redemption from our pride.


Otherwise a terrible judgment will await us. We have to be horrified by our sin of pride, which is one of the most satanic sins, because Satan is pride personified. The proud belong to his kingdom. Through their pride they are tilling the ground for many other sins. If we are not determined to make a radical break with our pride and to strive for humility, we will never be free from Satan's nets.


The Word of God gives us clear directives. First, "Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God" (1 Pet. 5: 6). In practical life it can look like this: If we are denied an honour, an office, a position of leadership, something that our pride has been striving for, we must humble ourselves beneath the mighty hand of God. We must surrender our will to God; we must yield to everything that humiliates us. We must say, "Yes, Father", to the flaws in our personality, to our insufficient education and talents, to our family situation, to being a sinner again and again, to our own faults reflected in the behaviour of our children, etc. Let us say, "I thank You, Father, for taking pains with me and thinking up this way of humiliation for me so that I can be freed from my pride." If we call to the Lord in this way, we will find that God will answer this prayer.


Then the second thing that Jesus advises us to do: We should humble ourselves as Jesus did, the Son of God, the Lord Most High, at whose feet the angels fall, bringing Him homage. It is written; "Taking the form of a servant . . . he humbled himself" (Phil. 2: 7, 8). Now He is calling to us sinful men, who actually deserve nothing more than the place of lowliness, "Whoever humbles himself will be exalted" (Matt. 23: 12). Let us respond to Jesus' challenge by voluntarily humbling ourselves. That will help us to become humble, for when we go Jesus' way of lowliness, some of our pride will crumble. Let us choose freely a lowly position that will humble us. 


Whenever possible, we should not accept any titles or honours; we should not try to stand out in any group, or strive for positions of honour. On the contrary, let us take advantage of the opportunities to step back and let others receive the honour that we may deserve. Let us be quiet when we have the opportunity to draw attention to ourselves. Above all, let us admit our mistakes and sins to a counsellor, or to others when it is necessary, because that often humiliates us the most. Only true humiliations can really make us humble and free us from pride. Whoever becomes a "friend" of humiliations will find that they have great power. When they are accepted in love for Jesus, they are like a hammer that smashes our pride to pieces.


But it is also necessary to wage an intensive battle of faith against the sinful power of pride, behind which Satan stands, in order to be freed from it. We must act according to the advice of the Holy Scriptures and accept humiliations, but at the same time bring the bondage of pride daily under the blood of the Lamb, who has released us from this spirit of pride. We have to fight a battle of faith against "principalities and powers" without becoming tired and discouraged. We must fight in the knowledge that Jesus will be victorious, for He was victorious on the cross and redeemed us to humility. Then we will experience the fulfilment of God's promise to come and dwell with the humble (Isa. 57: 15).


Jesus could say that He was "lowly in heart" (Matt. 11: 29). What radiance there is in the life of a truly humble person: the majesty of Jesus Christ shone forth in Him, the humble and lowly Lord, on His bitter way to Calvary. Could it be that He who was "lowly in heart" would not do everything possible to clothe His disciples with this virtue also? He has the power to make us humble men who bear His radiance and majesty. For this He offered His sacrifice on Calvary. On the cross He trod the head of the serpent under His feet-the serpent who personifies pride. He is Victor over sin and the power of pride. If we call upon the Lamb of God, who overcame our pride, He will make us overcomers too.