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第二部分 对症下药,逐一对付

6.自以为是

自以为是的人认为他的一言一行都是对的,倘若别人怀疑他的作为是否正确,他就无法忍受了。这种人常常诿过于人,抱怨别人不明白或得罪了他们。他们总是把矛头对准周围的人,根本不让人有说话的机会,就像穿上全副盔甲,令任何批评也不能刺伤自己。


正因为这种人自以为完美无错,觉得自己根本没需要去对付罪,以致罪恶丛生,最后被罪恶紧紧捆绑,不能自拔。尽管他看来很敬虔,实际却成了罪恶的奴隶,与耶稣隔绝,因为他活着就是一个大谎话,而且还冥顽不灵,不知悔过。只有真理能使我们得释放,自以为是的人拒绝真理,也就是拒绝了耶稣。


自以为是令我们不肯接受真理,不听神的警诫,即使祂透过第三者劝吿我们,我们也充耳不闻,神就可能不再警吿我们。到了审判的日子,凡心里刚硬,不肯听神警诫和忠吿的,都要受到严厉的审判,那时就后悔莫及,悔之已晚了。


“自以为是”是顶严重的罪,也是万恶之根。它令脾气暴躁的人动辄就破口大骂,令气恼的人动辄就跟人决裂,令诸多顾忌的人时刻提心吊胆,以致做起事来绑手绑脚;令沉默的恐怕言多必失,以致越发寡言;令沮丧的不能接纳自己和自己的表现;令怨愤难平的更多怨愤,不肯承认自己咎由自取。自以为是实在是万恶之根,我们一天不彻底对付这罪,其他罪恶也难以除去。


不单这样,人们把耶稣钉在十字架上的一个原因,也是自以为是。忠言逆耳,人们不想听主讲悔改的信息,更不肯承认自己是罪人,需要一位救主,于是恼羞成怒,高喊:“钉祂十字架! 钉祂十字架! ”


自以为是的人是彻头彻尾的“ 死硬派",从不肯接受真理,一味强辩到底,害怕别人直斥其非。他们自欺欺人,被撒但操纵着也不自知。尽管这些人自以为是主的门徒,主却要对他们当头棒喝:“你们是在人面前自称为义的,你们的心神却知道,因为人所尊贵的,是神看为可憎恶的。”(路16 :15 )


这是多么可怕的宣言! 神要憎恶他们,在审判的日子把他们丢在黑暗里,因为他们妄自尊大,觉得认错是奇耻大辱。耶稣称他们为假冒为善的人,就像法利赛人一样喜欢自欺欺人。主要对他们发出这个问题 :“你们......怎能逃脱地狱的刑罚呢? " (太23 : 33 )


哪怕要付上任何代价,也要从自以为是的枷锁摆脱出来。让我们首先求神的光照,因为主说:“ 但如今你们说,我们能看见,所以你们的罪还在。"( 约9:41) 自以为是的人,心眼瞎了,他们根本不想看见自己的罪恶。


倘若有人对我们说 :“ 你这个人真自大! 而我们不能接受的话,就要求神帮助:“ 父啊,求袮用真理光照我,让我看见我隐而未现的罪。"神一定会答允我们的祷吿,因为主来了,就是要叫瞎眼的看见。


祂既医治瞎眼的人,也必定愿意开我们的心眼,叫我们看清楚自己的罪。耶稣就是光,是真理,祂拯救我们,使我们成为光明的儿女,认清楚我们真正的自己,这真理必叫我们得以自由(约 8 : 32 )。


让我们这样祷吿:


"主啊,教我虚心接受别人的批评,好让我从自以为是的罪恶中释放出来。别人的指正实在很难受,但我知道那是祢对我的督责,也就甘愿接受。对每个纠正我的人,我都感谢他们,要是没人纠正我,我就主动请教别人。即使他们的指责未必中肯,我也要不惜代价,藉此纠正我的自以为是。"


 妄自尊大和自以为是有连锁的关系。神的管教令我们认识真正的自己,看见自己的罪怎样羞辱了神的话,帮助我们认罪悔改。但如果我们并非真正乐意接管教,却充满自怜的说:“我想接受神的管教。”这样,我们还是得不到神的赦免。


神用不同的方法管教我们,像疾病、失意、逆境、挫折或失望等等,都可以帮助我们看到自己的罪。那时我们就会搥胸顿足,说:“我们是应该的,因我们所受的,与我们所作的相称。”(路23 : 41 )我们这样谦卑下来的时候,就不会再妄自尊大、自称为义了。


如果我们不觉得自己是自以为是,我们便犯了最严重的毛病,但耶稣的宝血可以医治我们,祂首先帮助我们认罪:“这就是我:妄自尊大,自以为是。"我们若认自己的罪,神必要洗净我们一切的不义(约一1 : 9 )。


因此,我们必须警醒,要是不明白别人为什么会指责我们,就要安静下来,在神面前反省,可能那只是一场误会,我们就要求神帮助,使我们能心平气静地向人解释。


在这场争战里,要凭信心坚持到底,不断的求吿主的名,也要求吿主的管教。这样,我们就能摆脱自以为是的枷锁,得以承受神的国了。

You Will Never Be the Same
Dr. Basilea Schlink

PART TWO: Individual Sins 

Self-Righteousness: Self-justification


The self-righteous proclaim that they are righteous and that everything they say and do is right. There is one thing they cannot bear to hear: others questioning whether their behaviour was right. That is why they rebel and defend themselves, usually by adding that others do not understand them and do them wrong. They immediately turn the point of the sword around, by accusing others and keeping them from telling them the truth about themselves. The self-righteous put on a suit of armour so that no criticism can ever hit them. The self-righteous do not think it is necessary to fight against sin, since they are perfect. 


And so they will never make any inroads in any areas of their sinful disposition. On the contrary, all the other sins are nourished; they can grow and flourish. That is the terrible result of a life of self-righteousness. Man remains a slave to his sins and is separated from Jesus, no matter how pious he may appear to be, for he is living in a lie and is clinging to it. However, only truth, if we listen to it and accept it, can set us free. When the self-righteous reject the truth, they are rejecting Jesus, who is Truth.


If in our self-righteousness, we have rejected the warning voice of God, the voice of truth, even when it has come through another person, it is questionable whether the warning will come to us again. We have chased it away. But one day it will reach us-the day when we appear before the judgment seat of Christ. Then there will be a terrible judgment of those who were "hardened", who did not want to accept God's voice, His warnings, admonitions and judgments, even through other people. Because sin spreads, we will reap an evil harvest in eternity. Then it will be too late to repent.


Self-righteousness is probably the most serious sin; it is the root of all other sins, and they cannot be broken as long as we have not begun to fight against this sinful root. This sin is the root of the hot-tempered, who lash out immediately; of the irritated, who always have to have the last word; of the inhibited, who cannot move about freely, because they do not want to do anything wrong; of the silent, who do not say anything, because they do not want to say anything wrong; of the depressed, who cannot bear to be the way they are or to act the way they do; of the bitter, because they cannot admit that they are the ones who caused their bitter situation through their own sin. Self-righteousness has its effects in every sinful disposition.


In addition self-righteousness is one of the main sins that nailed Jesus to the cross. People did not want to hear His message, "Repent!", because they did not want to admit that as sinful men they needed a Saviour. Therefore, they cried out, "Crucify Him". If we do not hate this sin above all other sins and fight a battle to the point of shedding blood, we will be lost. Then the door to Jesus' kingdom of truth will be closed to us. For the self-righteous, who do not want to hear the truth about themselves and who often become untruthful when they defend themselves, are living in a lie and therefore they belong to Satan, who was a liar from the very beginning. 


But who realizes that his self-righteousness has made him a slave to Satan and a member of his kingdom? As a Christian he is perhaps convinced that he is a disciple of Jesus and belongs to His kingdom. But Jesus speaks these very hard words to the self-righteous, "You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts; for what is exalted among men (because, according to their own statements, everything is all right) is an abomination in the sight of God" (Luke 16: 15).


How terrible these words are which Jesus says to the self-righteous! God abhors them, or, in other words, on the day of judgment God will hurl them into darkness. Why? Because the self-righteous are so proud and are not prepared to admit that anything in their words and actions is not right. It would humiliate them to do that. Only the humble could do it. The proud and self righteous, who pretend that they are blameless, are called hypocrites by Jesus, just like the Pharisees, because they live a lie. The Lord hurls this terrible question at them, "How are you to escape being sentenced to hell?" (Matt. 23: 33).


We have to be redeemed from our self-righteousness no matter what the cost. We have to make every effort to be freed from bondage. The first step (which hypocrites also have to take, since hypocrisy and self-righteousness usually belong together) is to ask for light. For the self-righteous must hear Jesus saying to them, "Now that you say, `We see', your guilt remains" (John 9: 41). The self-righteous are blind about themselves; they do not want to see their sins.


If someone says to us, "You are so self-righteous" and we cannot accept it, we have to cry to God daily, "Send Your light and Your truth-Reveal everything that is not pure in Your light-Place my unknown sins in the light of Your countenance." And God who has promised to answer such prayers, because they are according to His will, will give us light. For Jesus has come to give sight to the blind, as it is written in Luke 4: 18.


 If He has given sight to the physically blind, how much more will He prove His might to give sight to our souls for our sins. His love wants to do this. He is Light and Truth and wants to send us His Spirit of truth. He has redeemed us so that we could become children of light and recognize the truth about ourselves, which will make us free (John 8: 32). We will certainly discover this, if we earnestly beg for light.


Let us offer this prayer:


Let me open my heart and listen to others when people say the truth about me. I want to accept this practical help to be freed from the curse of blind self-righteousness. It is so hard for me to hear others tell me about my weaknesses and my mistakes. But I want to accept it as Your special offer of love to me, because Your warning voice comes to me through such people. I want to give thanks for every person who calls my attention to my mistakes. And when this does not happen, I want to ask the people around me to tell me everything. And even if the admonitions and accusations are not one hundred per cent true, I want to use the opportunity to break my self-righteousness and self-justification. I want to fight to the point of shedding blood.


Blind pride goes hand in hand with self-righteousness, and this co-sin usually has to be cleansed through chastening. Through chastening we are to gain sight for our real condition. Then we will learn that we are really sinners and how greatly we fall short of the glory of God (Rev. 3: 18 f.). Chastening makes the proud humble, if we accept it. Yes, if the chastening shows us the truth about ourselves and helps us repent, we will be helped. 


But whoever bears it full of self-pity with such pious expressions as "I want to take it from God's hand" will never be redeemed from the dreadful sin of self-righteousness. Chastenings, such as sickness, working with difficult people, frustration of one's own wishes and plans, humiliations and disappointments of all sorts, are to serve to bring our sins into the light and help us recognize them. Then we can only beat our own breasts and say, "We are receiving the due reward of our deeds" (Luke 23: 41). When we are humiliated in this way, our proud self-righteousness will be healed. We will have gained our sight.


Yet all these things could not help us, if there were not Someone, who was able to be silent, when people accused Him unjustly: Jesus, the Lamb of God, who was "dumb before His shearers". He has also redeemed us to be silent so that we no longer have to justify ourselves in words or thoughts. Jesus has conquered the enemy, the old liar, and set us free from all self-justification. He is the Saviour, who will also heal this sinful ailment, as it is written, "With his stripes we are healed" (Isa. 53: 5).


He will even heal the worst type of self-righteousness: thinking that we are not self-righteous at all. His blood will cleanse us in a long healing process, whose first sign of progress is that we will be able to admit our self-righteousness. "That's the way I am, full of self-righteous pride." If we confess our sins and repent of them, He will cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1: 9). Every self-righteous thought loses its power, as soon as we bring it under the blood of Jesus. 


Therefore, we must be alert. If we cannot understand an accusation or a reproach, there is still one way open to us-we can ask God to give us the true perspectives through His Spirit. Then we will see clearly how we caused the situation. In times of quiet prayer God will show us our "Account Book". Certainly once in a while there may be a mistake that has to be explained. But then we must pray about it so that we can explain it humbly. 


Let us persevere in the battle of faith, claiming the victory of Jesus ever anew, prepared to accept God's chastening. We will find that the chains of self-righteousness, which bind us to Satan's kingdom, will burst and we will inherit the Kingdom of God. For God, nothing is impossible.